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Am I Overreacting?

My husband’s friend has moved in and has been sharing our house with us for almost 4 months.

He’s always on time with rent, courteous with cleanliness, cooking and guests. In all aspects he is a great roommate, which is why I’m a little ashamed about my feelings towards one small thing. He doesn’t have a job and he doesn’t care about getting one. He is content living life as a couch potato and in my opinion, unnecessarily collecting EI.

I realize that this is non of my business but my husband and I are very hard workers and enjoy going out every day and working. I should add that he has been given many opportunities to work and for decent pay but has always found an excuse as to why he doesn’t want to. It’s beginning to really bother me.

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I think that EI should be used as a last resort when people are between jobs and actively seeking other employment. I keep telling myself it’s non of my business but it’s not decreasing the feelings of annoyance that I can’t shake.

What else can I do?

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  1. Susan Csapo Susan Csapo says:

    Nobody said woohoo a roomie 24/7 ever!!Tell him to go to work or find his own shack..

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  2. Report him to the pogey police

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  3. Kim Schindel Kim Schindel says:

    Sounds like you’re a bit jealous. He pays his bills, contributes to the household and is clean. Sounds like a pretty good room mate. You’re just mad that he chooses to not work. Maybe you have issues to deal with. Kick him out if you don’t like it. Dunno..doesnt really sound like a problem to anyone but you.

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    • Chris Dumais Chris Dumais says:

      Yeah everyone is super jealous of a skid with no job and no extra money to enjoy life. You don’t find it annoying when dipshits live off the system unnecessarily?

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    • Kyle Wilson Kyle Wilson says:

      Not even touching on the ” skid with no extra money to enjoy life ” bit, sure it’s annoying. It will only last for so long before said dipshit will have to pull up their socks. I’m sure they are not the only one who has taken perhaps a little longer to secure a job if you are indeed paying your bills on time AND sleeping in.

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    • If you dont use your EI you loose it, if you can use it good for them . The only ones that benefit from us not using it is the government. But hey i guess the next 10 mil has to come from somewhere.

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    • Jealous???? Lol. She sounds annoyed that he sucking the system.

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    • Its not sucking the system we all pay into it, its our money. You dont care that we have to pay and you dont care where it goes.

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    • Kim Schindel Kim Schindel says:

      Using your EI benefits is hardly sucking the system. It’s what working people are entitled to if they lose their job.

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    • Maya Dines Maya Dines says:

      It is a problem, not a jealousy because all of us incl her and her husband are paying for him to stay home and do nothing. The system that allows this is the problem, people like Kim who tolerate it and turn to the other side are the problem. There are Canadian citizens who need the EI support and rightfully so cannot get it for one reason or another. People who cheat the system are a problem.

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    • Maya Dines Maya Dines says:

      Kim Schindel, where do you think the EI fund comes from? I hope you don’t think the Queen deposits it yearly for good behaviour

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    • Ashley Cragg Ashley Cragg says:

      How is ei abusing the system? If he is entitled to it then clearly he worked and paid into it. We all pay into ei and if you don’t use it it’s like throwing money away. It’s not welfare. It’s money you put in for when you need it.

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    • Tanita Faye Tanita Faye says:

      It sounds like some people commenting are totally OK with the government just taking our hard earned money and could care less if they ever see it again. I, for one, have always and continue to work. If i ever had the circumstance that got me to EI you bet I’d have a small vacation with that. Paying every single paycheque to EI and never used it, you bet I earned that 32 weeks if it ever came my way! That is OUR money from our paycheque going into the government’s pocket and I would expect them to pay a tiny portion out to me if I ever needed it. It isn’t even that much for petes sake. People who abuse it are the ones who work just enough hours to qualify then go on it. Over and over again. Your average person it’s not abusing it. Again it’s our own money to start with!

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    • Tanita Faye Tanita Faye says:

      Those saying he’s using the system don’t even know if he’s ever been on EI before. They don’t know how old he is and if he’s worked many many years like a lot of us… maybe he’s just saying it’s his time to finally have a break that he paid for anyways! It’s not like a welfare junkie/sole child tax or aish recipient who never contributed. This guy obviously did the time to earn it

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    • Thats exactly what i was trying to say Tanita i dont think people really understand the EI concept. Its amazing how ignorant people really are about their government.

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    • Tanita Faye Tanita Faye says:

      Theres a reason only the rich get richer

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    • It employment INSURANCE. Who knows how long this guy has worked and never drew his EI. Or works and draws allbtge time.. either way he’s paid into it. You can’t use your ei unless you’ve worked and got laid off or some other reason not being quit or fired. I bet that guy has a peace about him inside his being and that’s what’s irritating the OP.

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    • Kim Schindel Kim Schindel says:

      MayaDines…I know exactly where EI funds come from. It comes from me and every single person that works. A person cannot collect EI if they haven’t paid into it. I have paid into EI for 35 years…your damn rights I will collect it if I am ever in a situation where I am layed off. You can’t just walk into the EI office and tell you don’t want to work right now and want money. The guy had clearly worked, paid is EI deductions and lost his job….

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    • We pay into it why not suck it.

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    • Tanita Faye Tanita Faye says:

      Pris, I’d rather see someone who is ENTITLED to EI benefit because they worked for it, instead of a lazy bum on welfare.

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  4. Tell me where these jobs are that he is turning down because my husband will take every last one of them. He has been looking forever and had lots of interviews….. NO JOB!!!!!

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    • Vanna Brule Vanna Brule says:

      Could you support a family on 13 bucks an hour? Pay your mortgage?

      The .majority of those minimum wage jobs aren’t hiring full time. They keep employees at 30 hours a week or less so they don’t have to give them the benefits entitled to full time employees.

      A friend of mine was looking for work this spring and had two and then three minimum wage retail jobs and could barely rub 25 hours a week between them.

      It’s not a matter of being too good for a wage…its a matter of literally not being able to survive on a wage that pays you less than EI does.

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    • Chris Dumais Chris Dumais says:

      McDonald’s is hiring everywhere.

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    • You would think right? But ya…. no

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    • 4891 jobs on kijiji, how hard is looking?

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    • I don’t need your negative feedback…. you put yourself in our shoes for 2 minutes and you would shut up. Honestly.

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    • Chris Dumais Chris Dumais says:

      Fuck off. McDonald’s hires everywhere.

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    • How about you do the same…. Cheers asswipe.

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    • Chris Dumais Chris Dumais says:

      I’ve been doing the same job for 13 years. I’m solid, thanks.

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    • Ya…. and I hope to God that you are not “let go” due to rebranding…. that was my husband. 12 years same job…. you might want to be careful how and what you say to some people that are facing harsh adversity in their lives. This has turned our world upside down…. my husband is not afraid of work…. he has applied at less than desirable places. He is not fussy… but at 47 years old… you would be surprised…. they actually won’t hire you for fast food…like I said… husband is 47 years old…. AND THIS IS THE FIRST TIME IN HIS LIFE THAT HE HAS EVER COLLECTED EI… so…. like I said… be careful how you talk to someone or what you say… as you never know what they are going through. You might just be pushing that person over their last edge. I challenge you to go through what we are.going through…. you have kids? Pray to God they don’t grow up in your shadows and that they treat people with kindness and compassion. My comment was not an invitation for you to kick a family when they are down.

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    • Chris Dumais Chris Dumais says:

      Tons, and I means tons of companies are hiring regardless of the economy. Not sure what his skill set is, but there are TONS of jobs that require little training. Some jobs/companies will hire based off age ( even if they don’t say so ) but there are a massive amount of jobs out there hiring regardless of age.. they hire purely based off skill. Like I said, not sure his skill set, but it’s pretty easy to get a half ass decent job in Alberta.

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    • Dale Martin Dale Martin says:

      Agreed Chris there is tons of work normaly those who dont find it want 30+ an hr an most times worth 12 an hr if that

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    • Vanna Brule couldn’t have said it better myself. No one will ever understand unless they have been there themsleves. By the grace of God go them… with their cocky and holier than though attitudes, someone or something is going to kick them in the teeth so hard that they are going to think twice before they speak. I just hope that the proverbial rug is never pulled from underneath them. It sounds like they wouldn’t have the first clue on how to deal with it with DIGNITY and CLASS. This is the first time in my husbands 30 plus years working…. that he has drawn from the ei pool. Shocking what the maximum rate is… I challenge anyone to live on that…. you can’t actually. We never lived beyond our means… no fancy anything…. just living life… now we are months behind on payments and commitments…. the struggle is real and frankly, the most arguably hardest time in our lives. I hope this ass sleeps well at night knowing that he has kicked a family when they were down… as much as an ass he and the other pitiful commenters are, I would never wish this upon anyone… and I truly hope their kids never go to bed hungry or worried that their Mom and Dad are not themsleves lately. Take a minute everyone and think before you open your mouths. Yes… there are jobs out there… and my husband has pounded the pavement incessantly… praying for that break…. praying that when they say “they like him very much and he would be a great candidate for the job” that they don’t second guess that and end up “hiring internally” or decide to go in “another direction”. I hope you all that had nothing positive to say and had all the answers take a step back, and hope and pray this never happens to you. No one is immune… NO ONE.

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    • Joan Shelby Joan Shelby says:

      I’ve been to a resume writing course in spruce, handed out over 230 resumes just on indeed, not including other sites, in person or through email, job fairs etc.
      If someone has a better skill set and more experience then you- best bet that company is choosing them over you. That’s the sad reality that I’ve faced with every interview I’ve had to. Who you going to choose, a recent college graduate or someone with 2-3 years experience. It’s pretty simple. fast food, retail jobs I can’t even get my foot in the door because they keep asking me why I am applying to it instead of a job I have a diploma for.. mind you it’s hard to get into a career with no experience.

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    • Kelly Smith Kelly Smith says:

      i applied at walmart and was told i’m to over qualified for cashier position or any other position. lots get told that for places like walmart mcd’s retail stores too

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  5. that little irritation will soon turn to other ones, some people like the EI life

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  6. You can’t really complain if he’s abiding by the terms. Be glad you have a decent roomie and suck it up. Good people to live with are hard to come by.

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  7. Lisa Wood Lisa Wood says:

    You’re right, it’s not really your business, but at the end if the day, people pay into EI from previous employment and if he’s still eligible and it hasn’t run out, then what’s the big deal? It’s not like he’s stealing it from someone else. Maybe he had a crappy boss at his old job or it was super stressful and needs time off. Lots of people would take some EI and time off work if they could.

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  8. April Snow April Snow says:

    You can call the Employment Insurance Integrity team. They do random checks on anyone collecting EI and will happily tell him he’s been randomly selected. This way the responsibility for collecting illegally is on him and not you.

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    • No one said he was collecting EI illegally!

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    • Umm he wasnt claiming it illegally. Im sure the integrity team will see this mans integrity with the horrible way he is paying evverything on time. Like seriously.

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    • Lol you must be a really great friend. Snitch rather than have a chat.

      And even if he was collecting illegally there’s no way it would fall on OP. Lol

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    • April Snow April Snow says:

      Guys if he is choosing not to work, being a couch potato while collecting, and not actively job searching for 8 hours a day Monday to Friday that is EI’s literal definition of fraudulent collection. Educate yourselves.

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    • April Snow April Snow says:

      Charlene I was speaking of the guilt she might feel for turning him in. I could have been more clear.

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    • Amy Stewart Amy Stewart says:

      April Snow … BAM!!

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    • April Snow April Snow says:

      they have zero idea that I am well informed on this topic. Thanks for the smile.

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    • Rick Benford Rick Benford says:

      Illegally? You pay into it, it’s called insurance for a reason!
      If someone broke into your house you would want the insurance company to pay you for your loss because you have paid them. If your in a car accident, then you want the insurance company to pay you because you pay into it.
      So why shouldn’t you expect them to pay you if you lose your job?
      Its not like he is collecting welfare and using tax dollars! The guy probably paid into it for years and is now only collecting what is his!
      Get a grip!

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    • Amy Stewart Amy Stewart says:

      went a little smile crazy. They should not automatically send. LOL.

      Using government aid when you are not trying to help yourself is complete bullshit.

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    • April Snow April Snow says:

      It is not privately purchased insurance. They have nothing to do with each other. Again, educate yourself.

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    • April Snow April Snow says:

      Amy I agree. Even the most part time casual work is acceptable to them to maintain your payments. Doing nothing at all is not acceptable to them. I also don’t think I’d be able to handle another adult who was always in my house just choosing not to do anything. I would get angry and upset like the OP. However I wouldn’t give two shits about it if he was collecting while living in his own house. The original poster likely wouldn’t either.

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    • Amy Stewart Amy Stewart says:

      …..as a person who pays into EI, knowing I will likely never use it, I do get upset sometimes. Having the option to pay into it would be awesome but we don’t. What if you collect EI to lounge around and when you finally do decide to do something with yourself something shitty happens and you need EI and are denied! Well shit… that would suck!!!

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    • April Snow April Snow says:

      That would be karma.
      The government is, and always will be infuriating, if you can prove you are job searching they will pay you out no questions. Like private insurance though, you have to prove you are entitled to the payout. It is very clear on the site that a stipulation to collect is to be job searching or working if a job is available. Monday to Friday they own your ass if you are claiming.

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    • April Snow April Snow says:

      That would be karma.
      The government is, and always will be infuriating, if you can prove you are job searching they will pay you out no questions. Like private insurance though, you have to prove you are entitled to the payout. It is very clear on the site that a stipulation to collect is to be job searching or working if a job is available. Monday to Friday they own your ass if you are claiming.

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    • April Snow April Snow says:

      There was zero accusation in anything she said. It was conversational.

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    • Rick Benford Rick Benford says:

      April it actually is! Yes it is controlled by the government but it is still insurance no matter how you look at it. Otherwise it would be called unemployment government aid not insurance!
      That money we pay into it goes into mutual funds (private ones) that generate interest with “our” money!
      Been working for almost 40 years straight and thankfully have never had to claim it, but I am sure glad it’s there if the economy ever pinches me, and your damn right I would collect “MY” money that I have been paying into for that almost 40 years!
      I really hope for your sake you don’t ever lose your job, because by the sounds of it you would be to proud to collect it and feed yourself!

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    • Amy Stewart you cannot possibly know you will “probably” never need it

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    • April Snow do you have any idea how condescending you sound saying educate yourself bahaha yippee yahoo you know more

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    • Anj Vanderwolf actually it’s from the day you start working no matter your age. I started working at 15 and ei was taken off.

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    • April Snow April Snow says:

      Theresa my apologies.

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    • April Snow April Snow says:

      In my own defence I find it difficult to read uneducated rants.

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    • If you dont want to pay into ei cause you’ll “probably never” use it, start your own company and get sub-contracted for your job. Otherwise, shut up that people smarter then you got laid off for lack of work and are milking the system for their own money back into their pocket… You have to meet certain requirements to get ei and then usually wait to get tje first payment, which by then is used to pay all the bills u had stacking up, usually leaving people is a shit spot to buy bus passes and food ( usually need a bus to haul back food from the food bank, thus farther draining the 60% max wage u get…

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    • Amy Stewart Amy Stewart says:

      Ya who’s accusing who? Yeah I know the purpose of EI and also know lots of scum collect it when they are healhyv

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  9. As a trade worker if there’s no work in my trade I go on EI until there is work… I’m a skilled worker and have enough hours I’ve earned my time on EI. And I’m not going to do something else that’s not my trade so you can feel better about yourself…

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  10. Randi May Randi May says:

    So then kick his ass to the curb if him not working bugs you that much. But being on time for bills is really decent even if it’s ei money.

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  11. If it irritates you that much, kick him out.

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  12. Well, he did pay into EI and should be able to access those funds. However EI benefits will run out at some point. Then what? You could have a roomie for life if boundaries aren’t set now. You and hubby need a plan and you two need to present this to your temporary roommate. Tell him he can stay x amount of time but then regardless of circumstances you need your privacy and family home needs to be yours again so he will be required to leave. Nip it now before it blooms into an awful stinkweed.

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  13. EI doesn’t last for long

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  14. If he was not living in your house, I’d say none of your business. Since he is living in your house, it is your business.
    If you find his presence too much, you and your husband should set a deadline for when he needs to leave. That might be the incentive he needs to get a job.

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  15. BE happy he is paying rent on time.

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  16. Darcie Daye Darcie Daye says:

    Sit down and talk it over with him before you say something you may regret.
    Put a time limit on his stay if he doesn’t plan on being employed.
    If things go unaddressed, all that leads to is tension and a ruined friendship.
    It’s a tough spot to be in, but you own the house and have to call the shots.

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  17. so you have control issues. over people that are not even related to you. Are you, by the way , claiming that rent on the income tax too?

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  18. Dorinda Dawn Dorinda Dawn says:

    It’s none of your business, you have no idea what he is battaling… could be depression, is he recently separated or divorced ? Obviously at one time he has a job to qualify for EI.. just let him live his life, eventually EI will run out and he will have to work… so just give him his space and let him figure his own life out as his pace

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    • Anything that goes on in her house is her business….and a slight annoyance can turn into major resentment pretty fast….

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    • Dorinda Dawn Dorinda Dawn says:

      Actually it’s not…. if he is following he rules, paying his rent then the rest is MYOB…. did he sign a lease or contract saying he had to find employment ? She knew he was unemployed when she allowed him to move in…. he didn’t move in with his parents he moved in with a friend …. show some respect and give him his space and MYOB

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    • Dorinda Dawn Dorinda Dawn says:

      Actually it’s not…. if he is following he rules, paying his rent then the rest is MYOB…. did he sign a lease or contract saying he had to find employment ? She knew he was unemployed when she allowed him to move in…. he didn’t move in with his parents he moved in with a friend …. show some respect and give him his space and MYOB

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    • Dorinda Dawn Dorinda Dawn says:

      Sure I totally would …. why? Because I don’t judge , I also mind my own business , if he is paying rent I don’t give a fuck what he does…. stay at home all day and masturbate all I give a fuck just pay your rent! Period … why she cares so much about what he does is beyond me… it becomes her business when he misses rent

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    • Kelly Smith Kelly Smith says:

      if he signed lease or rental agreement i hope op is claiming that on taxes

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  19. He has earned his EI!!!!..He should not have to take a lesser income job to suit you! Be thankful he pays his rent on time!! That helps you out. He needs to know how you feel so he can make other arrangements with others will appreciate his paying his rent on time!

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  20. My question would be: was he receiving EI when you made the mutual agreement to have him move in? If so, then I’m not really understanding why you have a problem. If this is something recent then it wouldn’t be out of line for you to sit down and have a discussion regarding your expectations for the household. Another question: did you do this to help him out or to get some extra income to help yourselves out?

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  21. I think you need to mind your own business and find something constructive to do with the time you spend poking your nose into his business!

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  22. Lexci Krahn Lexci Krahn says:

    EI doesn’t last forever. He’s paid into it and it will run out.
    Let him run it out. MAybe he had a really mentally exhausting and shitty job before and needs to recollect himself.

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  23. Surprising some of the comments, no wonder our province is in the state it is, EI should be a privilege not an entitlement. If you are a healthy individual get off your lazy ass and get a job. Have some pride, and contribute. I wouldn’t have someone like that living in my house. He should clean he has nothing else to do except sponge of hard working people.

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  24. You’re taking his EI money happily as rent so what do you care?

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  25. He could have mental health issues that you don’t know about that could be why he’s taking a break from work. If he’s otherwise a great roommate I’m not sure why you’re concerning yourself with his personal business.

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  26. It is your business and your home…I ran into to exactly that situation and when ei ran out he wouldn’t leave and I was stuck with him for months…never again

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  27. Brad Daniels Brad Daniels says:

    I’d like a roommate like that. Maybe if he’s paying his rent and all this other good stuff then you shouldn’t worry.

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  28. Barb Grenier Barb Grenier says:

    People have different priorities in life. Sitting on EI would not be one of mine. I am not ok with people who are fully capable of working using the system. Yes we all pay into it, and someday it may not be there for us to use because of an unjust government. That is life. It’s time you have a chat with your roommate and let him know the living arrangements were temporary until he could get himself back on his feet. Give him 60 days to find a place of his own. Reality will snap in when he realizes he cannot survive on EI in the real world.

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  29. excuse me???? in order to collect ei you must work for it fck yea id be sitting on it for a bit geez

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  30. I could see if you need space during the day to have time to yourself. Perhaps get him a tv for his room or recommend that he get one so you can have a little time in the house to feel less clostraphobic. Maybe that’s all that is bothering you.

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  31. EI don’t last forever! Let the guy relax lol

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  32. I took a year off and to be honest it felt good. I feel way better health wise and got to spend time with my family. I think as long as he covers his share of stuff let him be.

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  33. Ashley Cragg Ashley Cragg says:

    Mind your business haha we pay into ei. It’s not something people take that they didn’t earn. He is entitled to use it until it runs out. Some people pay into ei their whole lives and never actually use it. Why hand over all that money to the government and not get it back if you can? Leave the poor guy alone haha

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  34. Maya Dines Maya Dines says:

    No wonder why our economy is where it is. Some of the comments here and the attitude towards people are just unbelievable. Life is too short for that.

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  35. Tanita Faye Tanita Faye says:

    People work almost literally their entire lives. Our whole lives! Let’s be real who wouldn’t take 2 or 3 months off paid if they could. If I had a chance to take EI or welfare or whatever just for a little bit of time you bet your sweet ass I’d enjoy it for a bit. EI has a maximum time anyways. We pay into it our whole life so what if a person *who deserves it* takes it once or twice in their life and especially when they need it. I think you should just be happy he’s a good roommate who pays his rent. Set a time limit if u don’t like having a roommate, so he’s well aware u want him out and such time. Not really your business if he’s job hunting 24/7 as long as he’s paying his rent. If u don’t like the source of those funds tell him to move out. Id say take your pick.. let him live there as long as rents paid or ask him to move out if it bothers u that much.

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  36. Kathleen Rae Kathleen Rae says:

    EI eventually runs out.

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  37. His EI will eventually run out…and ya, not really any of your business…he obviously worked hard enough, and has every right to collect the EI he is entitled to…

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  38. Tamara Marie Tamara Marie says:

    Dude. Let the dude have a break. Some people just need some time to them selves every once in a while and as long as bills are paid and duties are complete you should honestly kindly frick right off.

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  39. Maybe, just maybe, he’s one of these guys who got laid off and needs the mental health break, but is your roommate because he doesn’t want to be alone…and doesn’t want to tell you he needs a mental health break because he’s scared you’ll be judgemental and lack compassion or empathy.
    https://www.buzzfeed.com/omarmouallem/oil-heartbreak-and-manhood?utm_term=.xuZkyPgOl#.hgA0l7b6y

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  40. Cody Smith Cody Smith says:

    I can’t believe these comments. Part of your responsibility while on EI is to be actively looking for work. If your not you can be declined benefits

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    • Kim Schindel Kim Schindel says:

      One thing the op doesn’t actually know. He could very well be looking for work. If he’s a tradesperson he would be checking with his union more than likely every day. How does she know what he actually does all day while she’s at work?

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  41. Karin Hunt Karin Hunt says:

    As long as he pays his rent and is clean and considerate, the fact that he is on EI is none of anyone’s business. There may be valid reasons why he does not look for work, that he is not confiding at this time. However let’s look at the full picture…..to build up EI accruals the top EI premium paid by an individual is somewhere around $52.00 bi-weekly with the employer matching that for approximately $104.00 dollars bi-weekly. With premiums at that rate, the individual will collect benefits of approximately $970.00 bi-weekly. So, in order to collect EI of $970/bi-weekly for 8 months = $15,520. That means the individual would have to have worked 149 months or 12.5 years to match the amount paid into the EI account. Therefore if your boarder worked 12.5 years he is not milking the system, merely taking back the amount he paid into EI premiums. If however he worked only long enough to qualify for EI benefits then he needs to look for a job because someone like me who has paid into EI for over 20 years is really bankrolling his time off from work. Having said that it is important to note that I strongly support Canada’s EI program as it aides many citizens who have lost their jobs, due to no fault of their own, rather due to the economy or seasonal work and would be homeless without the aide.

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  42. Tim Jacklin Tim Jacklin says:

    It is a lifestyle thing you don’t like. I had a renter who was great to live with … while she was workin 12 hrs per day 6 days per week. Then suddenly she was not working and home much of the time. Yup , her lifestyle changed from working to not working. I got a new renter. Lol.

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  43. It employment INSURANCE. Who knows how long this guy has worked and never drew his EI. Or works and draws allbtge time.. either way he’s paid into it. You can’t use your ei unless you’ve worked and got laid off or some other reason not being quit or fired. I bet that guy has a peace about him inside his being and that’s what’s irritating the OP.

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  44. Ei is for 52 weeks it will run out eventually then you can be a judgy roommate when he can’t pay

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  45. Its not very often in life you get paid to sit around and do nothing, we all pay into our EI. So I think he should sit around as long as he possible can. Get your money’s worth. Life is to short to be working your ass off, if you can catch a break; take it like your life depends on it. Just my opinion.

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  46. On the other hand: he’s cleaning & cooking for you guys. Be grateful. Yes, it’s none of your business. As long as he contributes, I think that’s important. Have a great day now

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  47. If he is anything like me.. being laid off from the trades was very hard on my mental state.. it took me a year to not only feel better about the situation but also to decide what to do next. That last part is sooo very hard to decide as it needs to cover mortgage and other bills as well as be able to keep you happy.
    He will find a job when he is ready.. believe me he knows better than anyone that the ei will run out.

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  48. He may have depression or anxiety or any number of mental illnesses and yet seem happy and outgoing on the outside. Not all disabilities are visible and the severities vary.

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  49. As long as he is paying his way it is really none of your business if he works or not, only his. When his ei runs out then worry.

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  50. Why do people treat EI like it’s welfare…. they earned it let them collect geezes I just smdh

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    • DR !! No system is abused to much and people get lazy !!

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    • Kenny Joe Kenny Joe says:

      Except it’s “insurance” not a savings account.
      Your car gets smashed up, you don’t say “meh I don’t want to get it fixed,(this is simplistic as sometimes insurance will offer a settlement)imma take the money and go to Maui and ride the bus from now on”

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    • They paid into it….. it’s their right…. I’ve only collected during my Matt leaves…. they don’t even give that much…. someone wants to live in shit let em…. it runs out so…. their lives to deal with

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  51. Jes Woodman Jes Woodman says:

    he paid into EI , its his money he is just getting it back (part of it anyway) .. it does run out rather fast and then he will have no choice then to get up and work .. sometimes people need a break from life .. if he is collecting EI then he was once recently a hard worker just like you .. and if he is staying with you then it sounds like he has lost his job and his home , what better time to sit back and lick your wounds for a bit .. maybe instead of begrudging him this time you should show some compassion for him .. and if you cant , then tell him how you feel and arrange a time frame for him to move out , im sure there are lots of people who wouldn’t mind a good roomie

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  52. Tanya Sh Tanya Sh says:

    “What else can I do?” – double the rent amount. It will motivate him to find some employment ( or other less concerned landlords 🙂 )

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  53. Dylan Graham Dylan Graham says:

    I used to think that way but I don’t anymore … That’s his hard work that paid into his EI .. He earned that money doing whatever job .. Leave the guy alone

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