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Frivolous Spending Is Costing You Money

Gender reveal parties, smash cakes, expensive destination weddings? Don’t people realize that frivolous spending is eating them alive? These things were not common at all until the last 5 years (maybe a bit longer for destination weddings) Extravagant weddings are getting to be more extravagant every year, what a joke, don’t people see the scam? Back when I was young most kid’s birthday parties were in home and people were fine with that but now every year their kid has to have a huge event party. What?

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You are throwing away money on silly things, one day things, stupid things. We all see the posts here from people struggling with money, I wonder if they always struggled or were they one of these people that wasted money on a huge wedding and a “smash cake” for their baby.

Use your money sensibly, don’t toss it away on one day then complain about being broke for years to come.

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  1. Or you could mind your own business and not tell people how to spend their own damn money….

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    • That is true until later in life they have to access public funds to pay for the essentials of living. The Bank of Canada has been saying for years to put the damn credit card away and start saving more of your money. The OP is essentially saying the same thing, just a little more crudely.

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  2. Get your nose outta others pocket books.

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  3. Unless it’s your money, it’s really none of your business what others spend their money on lol

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  4. sssssshhhh, let people enjoy things.

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  5. Know what? I work for my money and I pay at least half of it to the government. What I do with the rest is my business. Unless you are contributing to my house hold….fuck off….thank you.

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    • How do you pay half to the government? There’s literally no tax bracket that high.

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    • Not in AB only NS ON and NB if you make over $250K lol I do this for a living so bs someone else…in AB even at 250k you would take home about 150k

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    • Sharie I suggest you read up on what the liberals have done to society middle class citizens pay 43% in taxes …. do the math 150k income only sees 80k …

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    • Stephanie Fortier not sure what reality you live in but 150k is about 100k more than what middle class makes. Middle class does not pay 43%.

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    • Pierrette Sharkey, when yoh invite 50 friends to a gender reveal party that feel obligated to bring gifts, then it’s not jist your business. When you have a destination wedding in Bahamas, you impose the cost of the trip on friends and family. Not everyone can afford these gifts and celebrations.

      So sorry dude, it’s NOT all aboit YOU and what you want..

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    • Charlene Piche it’s your choice whether or not u want to attend tho

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    • April Huber-Edwards, I never said it wasn’t anyone’s choice…. I’m talking about the embarrassment or disappointment felt by those who may not be able to attend or can but can’t afford a gift. The pressure that can put on some people…….

      But if you can’t see that not much I can do. The Me me me attitude lives on.

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    • First of all if you don’t want to feel obligated to bring a gift to a gender reveal party then don’t go. IF the parents of said child want to spend money on a gender reveal party then that’s THEIR business. If couples want to have a destination wedding then it’s their wedding! If you don’t want to go…then don’t go. The average Canadian household spends 42.5% of their annual income on taxes to the government. Everything you buy has a tax, your property has a tax, your business (if you have one) has taxes, your food has taxes. So about half of your income goes to the government on TAXES. If you read my post and thought to yourself, bullshit I do this for a living and she’s wrong, then you need to find a new profession cause you’re clearly NOT good at math!

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    • Charlene Piche I’m not a dude but thanks for the effort…dude

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    • People clearly don’t understand how tax brackets work. They are still tiered. Even if you are in the highest tax bracket, you don’t pay that amount on all of your income.
      Blame the liberal government all you want but tax brackets are simple to understand and nobody pays 50% of their income. Nobody.

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    • Ok are you stupid? Did I say anything about personal income tax? I said taxes, in the plural, meaning more than one. You buy a car, you pay tax. You buy cloths, you pay tax. You buy food, you pay tax. You buy a house, you pay taxes. You buy gas, 1/3 of that is taxes. You go to a movie, guess what! more taxes. Canadians on average pay 42.5% of their income in taxes (pssst that’s almost half)…OH and guess what? Those aren’t my numbers! Don’t believe me? Look it up. Honestly I’m done explaining this to you. What I do with my money after all those taxes is still none of your business…. I’m done with this conversation cause clearly some of you just can’t keep up.

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  6. You are right OP. It seems people are all about the party. Maybe about impressing the people going to the party.
    With weddings I sometimes wonder if it’s all about the wedding and not the marriage.

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    • Excuse you. Destination weddings are often specifically because people don’t want everyone and their uncle their. We invited 8 people to our destination wedding (and had 2 wedding crashers from my in-laws) and it was all about a marriage. We didn’t ‘break the bank’ and in fact I’ve been to many local weddings that are all show and pomp with hundreds of people they rarely ever even see and they pend more than triple what we did. And because we’re such atrocious, party loving people we paid for 2 of our guests because we didn’t want them to break the bank trying to make it work.
      I think you all need to re-evaluate your opinions on getaway weddings and tone down the jealousy like 72%.

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  7. Gonna be the same if not more this year!!

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  8. I agree to a certain extent. My home isn’t large so I always rented places for my son’s birthday. His party became his b day gift. Couple years ago his friends just came to the house. Served dogs, chips and a homemade cake. Every kid said it was for best party they had been to so I’ve stopped with the extravagant parties.

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  9. Cant take it with you when you die.. and life is too short, so do what makes you happy. Wondering why you would care tho?

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  10. I do not care what people spend their $$ on & I am not wasting any of mine trying to keep up with anyone. I use my $$ as I see fit & unless anyone is paying my bills etc it is none of their business what I do with my $$. As long as you are paying your bills etc it is none of my business what you do with yours.

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  11. Aww were you not invited to the party?

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  12. Making memories are priceless! If people have the money to do it then why not? Who are you to judge? I sense a bit of the little green guy here….

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  13. Tom Cooke Tom Cooke says:

    I can’t stand people that enjoy celebrating important days, what a bunch of assholes.

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  14. Susan Taylor Susan Taylor says:

    Why does anyone care what people do with THEIR money! It’s their business what they chose to do.

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  15. I would normally agree with you but life is short and you should enjoy every minute of it like it’s your last… because you could run over by a bus tomorrow, you never know

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  16. Destination weddings are cheaper than local ones…

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  17. Yup agreed. People spending money on stupid things is an epidemic, no self control in many cases sadly. Modern slavery is alive and well and it’s called “debt”. When a bank owns your home, your car, your furniture, you are not free and your life is not yours. People think I am cheap but I don’t spend money on anything except food and causes that mean something to me. I have so little debt, the bank punished me this year for not spending enough on my LOC with them (which pissed me off big time). If I got married again, it would never be expensive like my first one. Just elope and that’s it. Bottom line – I hate spending money.

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  18. Repeat after me “not my circus, not my monkeys” they can do whatever the heck they want with the money they earned.

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  19. Tamara Marie Tamara Marie says:

    It costs me about 50/60 bucks to throw my kids birthday party.

    Then I see parents spending like 300/500 and getting all upset when they can’t afford a 400 birthday party.

    I remember growing up, we had our 4/5 friends over wed hang at home maybe go swimming or to a movie and that was the norm and we were happy.

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  20. As long as my bills are paid, my kids are fed, and I don’t need to ask for handouts, I’ll spend the rest of my money of whatever the hell I want. I can’t take it with me, and my kids will have amazing memories.

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  21. Tara Adams Tara Adams says:

    If a parent wants a blow out gender reveal party.good for them..big birthday. .fantastic!!. .over the top wedding awesome!!. ..OP you never know why a family chooses to celebrate the way they do…so I ask…why do you care..?

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  22. Anna Hache Anna Hache says:

    Actually, destination weddings are much cheaper than a local wedding. A wedding here will upwards of $20,000 , and that is for nothing too extravagant. Our wedding in Mexico cost a fraction of that. No regrets!!!

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    • Sarah Smith Sarah Smith says:

      And how many plane tickets and hotels did you pay for? Don’t fool yourself, you differed the cost onto your guests and I’m sure there’s at least a handful who are bitter that they had to go out of obligation. Destination weddings are the biggest dick move, ever.

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    • Dawn Dalton Dawn Dalton says:

      Jamila Elizabeth we were in the same boat. Best decision we ever made.

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    • Dawn Dalton Dawn Dalton says:

      Jamila Elizabeth we were in the same boat. Best decision we ever made.

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    • I had a local wedding. In my own house. Cost less than $400.

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    • I had a local wedding. In my own house. Cost less than $400.

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    • Anna Hache Anna Hache says:

      Sarah Smith We paid for ourselves and my husband’s mom and guest, while my parents put money towards each room. HOWEVER, we had a destination wedding because my husband is from out East and it wasn’t fair to have a wedding here, or there; so we compromised and picked somewhere sunny. And moo e going to a destination wedding is bitter. Do you know anyone on a vacation that is bitter about being there?? Cuz I’ve never met anyone who is upset that they are on a beach

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    • weddings here cost how ever much you want it to cost. If you do everything the same as what most people do (ie: dinner and a dance for 200+ people) it will quickly add to more than $20,000. I opted for a more unique wedding and it was about $7000

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    • Yup! I had a destination wedding and that was our best decision. Your guests actually dont pay for your wedding. We had 58 people at our wedding and paid extra because our package included 30 and we were more than happy to pay it! Lots of people think guests pay for the couple’s weddings and they couldn’t be more wrong. Our guests from Quebec would’ve spent more money on coming here for a weekend than they would’ve on a whole week in Mexico.

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    • I had a destination wedding so I didn’t have to invite people like Sarah. Hell we had two of my in law family members crash our wedding uninvited because everyone wanted to come. So. Simmer down and stop being so salty. There are much better flavors, Sarah.

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  23. Tyler Seguin Tyler Seguin says:

    Why do you care so much, its their lives and their money people do what they do regardless and they always will. Do you and shut up.

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  24. Kids are only small for so long . I enjoy giving them big parties.
    Once they hit Jr high they don’t want the big parties anymore !

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  25. Jayn Edmonds Jayn Edmonds says:

    Buying things is how many parents show love. Sadly, they don’t know any other way.

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  26. What I do with my hard earned money is none of your business. I will spend it how I please and that’s all there is to it. You worry about you, I will do me and you can STFU and sit down.

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  27. Was this post about me? I have done all of these. I don’t know I rather spend money on experiences than more stuff.

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  28. While I agree on the smash cake thing at the end of the day it’s really no one’s business

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  29. Let people spend their money how they want and you can spend yours how you want. End of story.

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  30. It’s actually cheaper to get married at resorts. All inclusive rather than renting out and taking honeymoon

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  31. Not you money, not your choice

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  32. Alana Kornik Alana Kornik says:

    I’m not really sure why this impacts you. The way I see it is people work hard for their money and place a different value on what’s important. Some people might live in small modest homes but throw large birthday parties because it’s what’s of value. Others might live in extravagant homes and not have birthday parties and instead have designer clothing. Whatever is important to them is fine. Do what works for you and yours. If they want to be indebted to live a lifestyle that’s heir choice. If they want to have zero debt and not enjoy life then that’s also their choice.

    You do you and let them do them!

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  33. It’s not your money, why do you care?

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  34. Mim Anderson Mim Anderson says:

    While I agree with it being up to the individual what you want to spend your money on… lots of these parties etc are often not paid for by the individual but family and friends.
    Personally I don’t understand the endless list of events around weddings and babies. I often choose not to attend as I can’t afford to take gifts, travel and contribute to the event.
    Does a bride really need a bridal shower, stagette, and wedding? Does a new mom really need gender reveal, pre and post baby shower?
    My personal gripe is being asked to give money as gifts at such events. Not happening.

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  35. Aly Anna Aly Anna says:

    Yeah I live in a condo, I ain’t inviting at least 14 people to my small 2 bedroom condo. Fuck that.

    A lot of us believe that the memories and the moments captured are what make the money worth it and if people can afford to do than so be it. What business of it is yours what people spend their hard earned money on? Trick question. It’s none of your business. People shouldn’t have to tone down their expenses because you are bitter about not having it. You don’t know what people are doing with their money. They could have saved for a while. Weddings are once (typically). Birthdays are a day a year. Calm your tits.

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  36. Tre Hack Tre Hack says:

    My brother just got married in a Castle in Slovakia. Most of the family went. Not only was it the experience of a life time, having the bachelor party in a European city was one of those nights I don’t think any of else will ever forget! Life is about making great memories, not money!

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  37. Dawn Dalton Dawn Dalton says:

    You have made the assumption that the people throwing these parties and events are the same people that are complaining they are broke. Not a fair statement. You can’t put a price tag on experiences and memories. If these events result in someone not being able to pay their bills then shame on them, otherwise ‘party on people’.

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  38. You sound broke and petty. Sit down pout it out!

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  39. If it makes them happy who cares? If they want to spend their money on horse shit that’s their business! You don’t know peoples financial situation. Who are you to judge. If someone had a party for you every year you wouldn’t complain. Smile and stay in your lane Susan.

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    • Lisa Lutz Lisa Lutz says:

      Life is meant to be lived, and ENJOYED. It costs money to celebrate, eat, pay for housing, drive a car, go to school…so WTF? What good is a pile of cash and empty memories? Ughh.

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  40. Sara Lynne Sara Lynne says:

    So long as they are living within their means, who cares? I would rather they spend money on making memories versus physical items.

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  41. Keeping up with the Jone’s.

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  42. Unless you’re paying their bills, MYOB

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  43. It’s their wedding day to me it’s up to the couple getting married if they want a fancy wedding or not!!

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  44. Gender reveal parties just seem like an excuse to have a party and get attention.

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  45. If people want to spend money on stuff/parties, so be it. They don’t all have to cost a ton. We did a smash cakes for our daughter’s first birthday. Seriously I think it cost $5 to make. $1 cake mix (currently on sale at No Frills), a couple eggs and some oil, and a tub of icing. People can have fun and make memories and it doesn’t have to cost a ton.
    And OP you also need to realize that life can change in an instant. You can be well off one day (having extra money to spend on things you may think are “frivolous”), and then lose your job, get sick, or become disabled the next. People who tend to have the money to spend on events like this, aren’t usually the ones having huge financial troubles (there are some, but not everyone).

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  46. It’s none of your business

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  47. Amanda Kerr Amanda Kerr says:

    Now people are bitching about how others spend their money? Lol. Get a fucking life and quit worrying about other people’s expenses

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  48. Destination weddings are actually cheap! Less people and it includes the honeymoon!
    Gender reveals i do think are silly

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  49. Why does it matter? Lol
    it honestly doesnt cost much for cake smash photos. Can do your own and put them on a memory stick then take them somewhere to print a few off or get them done professionally. Just need cake mix and icing. Can get streamers and balloons at the dollar store along with props and something that says happy birthday. Its fairly cheap.

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  50. It seems your rant is based on the people and events that are going on in your life. Perhaps you should deal with these issues with your own people! Life is based on many different perceptions and choices by all walks of life. What others do with their money or lack there of is up to them!

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  51. I for one do not only work to survive, I work to live. This includes the ‘stupid things’ listed above. I’m not saying you should pick a vacation over paying your mortgage but some indulgances in life are necessary.

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  52. The best parties my son had were the cheapest One we had at home and the kids chased each other and threw water balloons. The other one we held in Rundle Park and played traditional games like Simon says. The extravagant stuff is not for the kids anyway… its for the parents.

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  53. Dorinda Dawn Dorinda Dawn says:

    It’s cheaper and way better to have a destination wedding imho

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  54. Why do you even care what other people spend their money on. It’s their’s to spend not yours!!

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  55. Not your money. Not your problem. Why do people allow other people affect them so much.

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  56. It’s not your money, so it’s not your decision. Simple.

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  57. Shari Heiser Shari Heiser says:

    I can’t say I disagree. We all want everything to be celebrated as though we are the only women who’ve had a baby or gotten married, divorced etc. Then get mad when the gift registries is ignored because people are sick of our vapidness.

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    • That definitely sounds like a you and your friends problem. I don’t have a single friend like that. All of my friends and family have just been extremely grateful to have their loved ones celebrating with them. You should definitely reevaluate who you have in your life. It sounds sad.

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  58. Evan Marcoff Evan Marcoff says:

    My money is my money bro! I’ll do what I want.

    But yes, lots of people definitely stretch to the end of their means.

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  59. To each his own so mind your own business

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  60. Mac Michaud Mac Michaud says:

    Hell of a fun party too

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  61. Samara White Samara White says:

    Can’t spend money when you’re dead.

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  62. I’m sorry but my destination wedding was done because it costs less than marrying in canada. My entire wedding, including flights and a week at a 5 star all inclusive cost 5 grand.

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  63. NOT YOUR MONEY so u need to stfu

    why does anyone get to tell anyone how or spend their money
    like how bout you mind your own business
    fkin nosey and bossy much

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  64. or mind your own business and let people enjoy things.

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  65. Honestly? It’s none of your fucking business.

    The way other people spend their money doesn’t affect your life, so why do you care so much?

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  66. Not your money not your problem

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  67. Joe Cutting Joe Cutting says:

    Yes because spending money doesn’t help the economy

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  68. Hold the hell up. I had a destination wedding and spent less than 6k that included the honeymoon ,flights and cruise for us. I know people who have e spent over 20k in a local wedding so you can take your ignorance and shove it. My wedding was beautiful, affordable and not filled with people I rarely see so suck it.

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  69. The only part that makes me shake my head are the ones on free sites and help sites looking for basic food staples on an almost monthly basis. Then, you’ll read posts looking for best places to buy $100 custom made cakes for their little ones or where to host parties. It gets old when you see the same ones frivolously spending and not checking their priorities.
    Then again, not my circus, and I certainly wouldn’t put myself out to help them with essentials.

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  70. And does this impact your life in some way? Mind your own business.

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  71. What a great post
    People waste money needlessly
    I can tell you this all these expensive gadgets people buy for children will eventually be gone be broken be lost be obsolete
    A day spent at the park at the pool in river valley a bike ride skating picnics etc..
    Those are memories that will never be gone

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  72. Teresa Long Teresa Long says:

    I think what the op is saying is that some of those same people spending their money on those things all year and not saving are then on all the free sites asking for stuff and then come out full force at Christmas crying the blues about no money for food/gifts

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  73. I always think, what’s next. You’ve done this for your kiddies *age goes here* birthday, what are you going to do to top it next year ?
    It’s like getting your 8 year old child an iPhone ….

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  74. Shawna Perez Shawna Perez says:

    You said it!! Your common sense advice will bring out the trash and the trolls in droves – ignore them. Let them be broke and begging for $$ cuz they spent money foolishly instead of saving it.

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  75. You worry about you…let them worry about them. You will be happier for it.

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  76. I know, people never want me to bake a homemade cake anymore. Its just not picture perfect enough I guess.

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