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I know this post is going to generate a lot of buzz from judgemental people, but I don’t really care.

I’m an early 40’s woman looking for a play friend. I’ve tried all kinds of different apps and all kinds of different websites, but haven’t been able to find any decent men out there. Every single one of them is rude, crass and disrespectful. It doesn’t matter what website I’m on, or how clean and tame my profile is, their all the same.

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I’ve talked about this with some friends and they told me that their greatest success stories have been with married men that they’ve met. They’re hungry and eager, yet they still have manners.

Does anyone else have any good experiences with this? Where do you find good men?

Yeah, yeah… I know, I’m terrible, I’m a homewrecker and an immoral piece of trash… Anyone have something constructive to say?

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  1. So let’s get this right your married and want to play around??? Add some spice in your relationship it helps . If that doesn’t help you should leave it.

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  2. Lmao, of course there will be the negative nellies and the perverted petes out there … My thoughts on this subject is do what you need to for you. Most dating sites have the hang out or not looking for commitment option. Read thise type profiles. The married men looking for casual sex are men who will actually pay for sex. So id be apprehensive about that. Your an adult and know what you want youll find it im sure. Play safe and have fun.

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  3. Alexis Musik Alexis Musik says:

    No I’m afraid not, I’d never hurt another women! Good luck bitch!

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  4. jump off a bridge one less skank out there hope your mommas proud

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  5. I think we attract what we put out there. The universe is sending you what you are: crass, disrespectful, and maybe not that decent. You reap what you sow.

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  6. Man.
    Maybe have a talk about open relationship? There are plenty of people into that. Just dont be another disgraceful, skank sleeping with married men. Have some morale. Just put yourself in the other womans shoes. How would you feel?

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  7. Why do you have to find people online? Maybe you’d have a lot better luck if you socialized in the real world to find someone, try going out to places, instead of going for someone who’s already taken.

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  8. Mj Mank Mj Mank says:

    So I do believe in live and let live. I believe everyone should be entitled to do what they choose to do that makes them feel better about themselves and/or satisfy what they are looking for in satisfaction, however, I do believe that,”thou shall not covet”, and “thou shalt not commit adultery”. I have lived to see how,”committing adultery” plays out in the end for the people that have done it and believe me i have seen a lot to make me want to do something so not morally good. What you want to do is not immoral, but it implicates other peoples lives, like his girlfriend/spouse. What happens when they find out and is that going to bother you to know you are the other woman.. Never works out, trust me. Find single men who only wants play friends, like you. Happy findings.

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  9. Lyn Hessels Lyn Hessels says:

    Soo you don’t like men who are disrespectful but you are considering dating a married man? Im not judging you, just pointing out that if a man is cheating on his partner he’s not respectful (or honest) so either take that of the list, or look somewhere else. There ARE lots of great single guys of all ages around. Be patient and have fun “shopping”. You can still have a playmate without commitment. We all have to kiss a lot of frogs before we find our Prince. Good luck to you.

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  10. You are wanting cheaters but complain they are disrespectful and crass. That’s the kind of guy you are looking for trash attracts trash. If you want a good man, a respectful man go for the single ones, not the married ones looking to cheat.

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  11. just remember karma will get back to you when you least expect it

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  12. It’s women like you that make the good ones look crazy. Your a skank. You’re the one who is disrespectful and crass. You want to sleep with married men says it all. How about sleep with only single men. Why is that not good enough. You and your friends need to seriously give their heads a shake. You nasty and disgusting.

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  13. There are a lot of open relationships/marriages out there if you are hell bent on a married man. Try that before you cause termoil in someones life..

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  14. If all your looking for is a “PLAY FRIEND” what does it matter how rude or crass they are. If your looking for a play friend then your looking to get laid if I am correct. You don’t need a married man to get laid. Last I heard all men have dicks. Sure go find a married man to sleep with and ruin his already torn relationship and devastate the kids he has. I agree with we attract what we put out there. Obviously you putting out there your looking for a play friend, hmmm what do you think that’s going to attract? Give your head a shake and go find a single $#@K buddy

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  15. Kara Fehr Kara Fehr says:

    It’s only acceptable to be with a married man if both him and his wife/husband agree. Polyamorous relationships are a real thing. They’re great for bisexuals 😉

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  16. Bobby Bongo Bobby Bongo says:

    Every woman responding ^ lol

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  17. Join the Polyamory Facebook Groups, use Tinder, go to place like 4Play etc…. I have several friends that live the lifestyle and can set you up with someone to give you more info

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  18. OK – if you don’t have constructive information, do not comment. Her lifestyle choices don’t affect you.
    Those in glass houses probably shouldn’t be throwing rocks…..

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    • This is some trash way of thinking here. This is why people don’t take marriage seriously any more because of all the people tramping around.
      I have been married to may amazing husband for 13 years and if some skank came on to him and tries to have sex with him the least of her worries would be me tossing some rocks.
      Perhaps she should “grow up” enjoy being by herself and fulfill her sexual urges with a toy and not keep looking for someone’s husband

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    • Many couple live an open lifestyle. She is simply looking for someone who is liked minded.
      People who live the lifestyle do not prey on people who don’t. She would never hit on a happily married man.
      Your lack of information is what makes you have a close minded opinion.

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    • If she find a fellow couple that is open to playing, then let them play. No problems for you or them.

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    • Lol too funny. I’m not closed minded at all.
      I actually believe in the values of marriage.
      The OP didn’t differentiate if she is looking for a man in an open relationship. She stated she wants a married man because the have morals.

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    • May of my Poly friends prefer to play with other married couples. Because people who have the trust to have an open relationship like that are often more respectful.
      Some sleeze who cheats on his wife won’t be nice and respectful, and many single men are not either.
      But a married man who respects his partner, and their play rules, will likely treat other women better as well.

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    • For the record a married man who would cheat on his wife would not fall under the category of “having morals”
      But a poly husband who has permission from his wife and respects his wife and is honest and open with her would.

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    • Actually her lifestyle does affect others…these married men have wives and kids

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    • Virginia McGregor again – IF they are cheating jerks, then its unacceptable.
      A married man with a wife and kids who is in a mutual poly relationship with his wife – no issues.

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    • Her life choice, this in particular does affect other people…the women married to the men she wants to sleep with…

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    • And unless its your husband, also does not affect you

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    • You all seem to be missing the part where poly couple mutually agree to play with others.
      There is nothing wrong with two poly couples playing together.
      As long as the husband isn’t cheating, and is open with his wife about his playmates, there is no issues.

      And you are SO concerned for the women of the cheating husband, perhaps you should spend your effort calling out the husband who cheats on his wife instead of the women simply looking for a mutual playmate.

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    • Ummmmm SHES LOOKING FOR A MARRIED MAN!!!! That’s all we need to know…..Doesn’t say it’s a swinging thing…… she’s purposely looking for them!!! Stfu Alanna…. did you submit this post??

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    • I agree with you Alanna.

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    • SMH – I don’t understand how they can’t understand mutual open marriages. Not my boat, but I know couple who it works for well. To each their own.
      And no Natalie Chesser, I didn’t submit this post. Because if you actually look at my previous comment, I offered information regarding where OP could look, and offered to get in contact with a poly friend of mine. So if I already knew the answer where to look, I wouldn’t have had to submit the post eh?

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    • No where does it state this person is poly. Assumptions are being made on both sides of the fence here

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    • But why assume the worst? In Canada you’re innocent until proven guilty.
      So I will continue to assume that she is looking for a poly partner until she clarifies otherwise

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    • I will assume she’s a home wrecking tramp until she states otherwise.

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    • Victor Diaz Victor Diaz says:

      Alanna your friends sound greasy

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    • You must live a sad life if you don’t have even a tiny bit of trust in humanity.

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    • Natalie A Chesser, I agree, I think we have found OP. ….. lol

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    • I thought the same thing. LOL

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    • Piahno Haans Piahno Haans says:

      Is this your first day on the internet? Go jump off a bridge with your slur friends.

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    • Alanna Davidson nope…not ok no matter what slant you put on it….if anyone can be hurt by your actions ..it is just selfish and wrong

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  19. Taryn Millar Taryn Millar says:

    Did you ever think maybe you’re the problem not the single man

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  20. Mike Luu Mike Luu says:

    The correct term is called “friends with benefits” go out there and make friends…show them respect and gain some mutual understanding of “fwb”, fuck and go home without string attached.

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  21. Well in that case there are groups of married couples looking for just that look up Facebook groups called Polly. Don’t ruin a married couple join the ones that allow such things. My friends are part of a Polly group and many men date single woman and are allowed to by their wives.

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  22. A married man? You’re seeking married men? You want constructive? You’re destructive and maybe should work on yourself before you willingly walk into a home and destroy it.
    I am very sorry that it seems difficult and impossible to find a good man. You are not the only one who finds the journey tiresome. However, moving into families is. It going to help you any. Best of luck on your journey to finding a wonderful man.

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  23. Don Keeler Don Keeler says:

    We are out here jus have to find us

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  24. Liz Dubray Liz Dubray says:

    If all you’re looking for is a play friend, why would their manner and demeanor matter? Can’t have your cake and eat it too. I mean. No judgement or anything but if you aren’t satisfied in your marriage, shouldn’t you just leave? Or is it a security thing? I’m guessing that your husband has no idea that you are cheating on him. Or trying to. I mean if you want to just “play”, who cares. All the power to you. But your husband deserves to know and make up his mind if he wants to stay with someone or not , who is so so selfish. I still don’t judge you but I do think it’s wrong if you are doing it behind his back and then coming onto social media to ask the public to help you find someone to cheat on your husband with. Just saying.

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  25. Pagan Heart Pagan Heart says:

    Sickening. Its people like you who end up in the news dead. You are looking to fuck married men… someone elses man. Pretty sure all men have cocks and that would include the SINGLE MEN. Any married man that would even consider being with you is just as disgusting and sickeningly gross as you are. I truly hope you get what you deserve.

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  26. Kathleen Rae Kathleen Rae says:

    Yes, I agree with Christa, you can’t find a decent man, because you aren’t a decent woman.

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  27. Lyn Hessels Lyn Hessels says:

    Join a swingers club. You wont be seen as a home wrecker because everyone shares your moral standards. You can go solo or with a partner. You have to basically be recommended but check it out. There will still be creeps and disrespectful, rude men… but at least you’re meeting people with the same moral values as you so no one is going to judge you. This may suit your desired lifestyle.

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  28. I don’t even know how a married man can be attractive to you. I think you’re sick! And should seek some professional help! Being ok with being a side piece doesn’t say much about you! And you want a good man geezes fuck lady get a fuckin clue you ho bag

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  29. Leave the married men alone. Why would you go after the ones who are already taken when there are even more single ones out there. You have no idea what cheating could do to a relationship or the person who is being cheated on. I never called anyone names on facebook but yeah, you’re a slut!

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  30. Carol Maser Carol Maser says:

    I’m Sorry for you, Not because of what you think you want, But because you Don’t Realize What you already Have! You Need to Work out in your mind & marriage what it is you really feel like you’re missing out on & repair those issues!! You Won’t Find Happiness in an extra marital affair… It Will ONLY BRING You more Unhappiness than you can ever imagine!! You’re Not finding any decent men to keep company with because it’s a Bad thing to begin with & this is NOT for YOU!!!

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  31. Gotta be a decent woman to find a decent man…

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  32. Shitty the old guy doesn’t satisfy your needs but what your planning and thinking will have a bad outcome !!

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  33. Jena Sandra Jena Sandra says:

    There’s nothing constructive to say. You’re hurting people. I just found out the guy I was seeing has a fiance. I told her. She’s devastated as am I and yet I feel like a piece of crap when I was innocent to it all. He won’t feel bad just angry he was caught. Seeking a married man you likely have psychological problems. You want to break the boundaries in someone else’s marriage create deception and broken trust. Why would you want to do that? Why do crass disrespectful men message you? Because they can smell thier own.

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  34. Kenny Joe Kenny Joe says:

    Who knows, could be open, poly, stag, group, cuckqueen etc men/couples out there who are just perfect for you. Keep in mind you ain’t making his choices, he is.

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    • I base my opinion on what OP says and not what I assume they mean. She said married man and acknowledged it was a trashy thing to do and that she was a homewrecker.

      This woman is a piece of shit…plain and simple

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    • Kenny Joe Kenny Joe says:

      Well if that’s the case you may need to brush up on your reading skills, as no where does she say “I’m sleeping with married guys” simply that the her friends have suggested it. ESL? By chance, or those skeletons in your closet getting a little loud?

      Edit: and again, she doesn’t make his choices, he does.

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  35. Isn’t Ashley Madison around anymore? Float ur boat but try not to panic when it capsizes and please don’t forget ur preserver

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  36. There are more disgusting people making comments here than the original OP could hope to be.

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  37. You’re looking for a hook up. What kind of attitudes from Men were you looking for. If you want to find a nice , non crass, non disrespectful man than find one and get married. Oh wait…..

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  38. Chris Seibel Chris Seibel says:

    Look in the mirror and you’ll find the real problem. I’d hate to see what you look like.

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  39. Connie Kim Connie Kim says:

    “I know, I’m terrible, I’m a homewrecker and an immoral piece of trash.” Nope…you pretty much covered it.

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  40. Wow, how do you sleep at night? Think about the emotional damage you are about to inflict- not only on him and his family, but yourself! I thought women would suppose to stand up for each other- where is your sense of sisterhood?

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  41. Try choosing 1 at least because play time is essential part of being happy.Everyone wants to b happy.IBM. Ill play

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  42. really!? You thought you might get support for this?

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  43. Have you tried talking with your husband about how you feel? That you want to go outside the marriage? That some of your needs are not being met? Have you discussed open marriage? You’d be surprised if you talk with your partner what positive outcomes can happen. We alk have friends to fulfill certain parts of ourselves. So why do we only have one intimate partner? Rethink manogamy Good luck!

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  44. Bitch, you come near my husband, I will find you, and I WILL cut you.

    Fuck off with your bullshit.

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  45. Instead of seeking out married men, why not join a swingers club or check out Craigslist there are always horny men looking for playmates! Who knows maybe a threesome may be right up your alley since you seem to not care much about anything but playing around….Just remember that 5 minutes of pleasure could lead to a lifetime of pain for the cheater and yourself also! Lives can be destroyed so stick to open relationships or a swingers club. There are a lot of psychos out there so be careful, you may meet a nice guy that really isn’t so nice. Lots of women go missing every day in Canada! Not to mention the wives that go crazy when they find out their hubby is cheating with you….I have seen girls lay good beatings on home wreckers.

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  46. Kyle Urban Kyle Urban says:

    I mean I guess I’d say that it’s based on where you’re looking but you’ve made it clear how that’s been. I’d say your best bet is probably offline and in person, happenstance. There’s context and you have more to go on to get a read on a person than you do messaging.

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  47. Hoe, hoe, hoe, merry Christmas!

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  48. If you have your heart (or loins) set on married men, you should look for those who are in happy, healthy, open/poly relationships. You will know them by the way the guy communicates about his relationships, and will more often than not, be willing to introduce you, and is happy for you and the wife to meet.

    The biggest thing is sooooo many people will try and say that they are in Poly or open relationships, but there’s usually telling signs that they’re lying.

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  49. Your looking for constructive advice on how to be a homewrecker…slow golf clap…aim high soul less slut.

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  50. Tracy Silva Tracy Silva says:

    Yup you’re right your gonna get your ass chewed for this post! Your looking for manners what about morals? Your in your 40s and single for a reason!

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  51. Whether she is out looking for a married man or not…and I do not particularly agree…can we please remember that it’s the man that actually makes the decision to cheat or not to cheat. I am so tired of hearing women accuse other women of being home wreckers etc…it takes two to tango. There is no woman in the world that is forcing a man to step out on his marriage. That’s his decision. Let’s not pretend that men are ruled by their brain between their legs. They know exactly what they are doing and need to accept responsibility. It’s on the men…not the woman. Do I think that’s who she should be seeking out for companionship? No, of course not…but the husband is ultimately the one who decides if he’s going to cheat or not.

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  52. Send me your email address, I can tell you some stories, or friend me

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  53. You forgot to call yourself a pig

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  54. There’s probably a reason up u can’t find a good guy. You’re not a good person yourself. Knowingly going after married men?! Karma’s a bitch lady

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  55. So you want to attract a married man, and be a home wrecker …. Your mother should be proud.

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  56. Pretty sure a married man cheating on his wife is not respectful..keep looking trash bag.

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  57. Damian Smith Damian Smith says:

    Try to find a marriage where the couple has an open relationship that way you’re not looked at as a homewrecker just someone is experimenting

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  58. You’re looking for a play friend, get a puppy!!!!

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  59. this is why I’m terrified of committing.

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  60. Online dating is the worst. But if you sift through the crap there are some good guys there. The good guys aren’t the married ones, because if they are willing to cheat they are the scum of the earth.

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  61. Learn to love yourself first. Be patient with unmarried men. You are just going to create drama and bagage stealing one. Who a guy is to one women is not the same to another. Also you are only going to attract someone who will eventually have the justification to cheat on you. Stealing a man will only create insecurity and hardship.

    If a guy is rude or mean it is a communication lesson to work through. Don’t be lazy in a relationship and expect perfection

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  62. Mal Esther Mal Esther says:

    I just broke up with my BFF of over 40 years because of her doing this same kind of crap. Yes, you are a terrible person. Put yourself in the wife’s position. Grow up.

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  63. Sara Curd Sara Curd says:

    Going after married men will end in u getting ur face smashed in do u really think its worth it i say keep looking for the single ones

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  64. You’ll also note – I’m not the only one suggesting it’s polyamory or to go to swingers club.

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  65. You beat me to it I was going to say the same lol

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  66. Many married couples are in open non monogamous relationships people shouldn’t be so quick to judge

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  67. Rhon Magyar Rhon Magyar says:

    dont get knocked up lmao! be hard to explain to a kid one day you were a slut and you didnt know who the father was at 40…

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  68. Rhon Magyar Rhon Magyar says:

    go to the local bar and get loaded. im sure anything available will appear decent, sound respectful and seem loving then lol. thats the best advice youre gonna get lol.

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  69. Look at little kids, don’t play a part in brokenness

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  70. Dylan Graham Dylan Graham says:

    Lol yes please try to rationalize your mediocre whoring. Trollope

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  71. Dylan Graham Dylan Graham says:

    Lol I’m laughing at all the women trying to defend this trAMMMMMP .. If it was a male you’d all be screaming for a lynch’n

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