Personal Life Venting / Question
Not really sure how to put this. Let’s just say family drama has been building for awhile. I don’t know where to start other then you don’t get to pick your family.
As soon as my brother had got married after his girlfriend getting pregnant, everything went downhill. We all absolutely adore the children even the one from a previous bf. Today there was a incident with their pitbull attacking my father as soon as they got there. There was a argument and my parents ended up leaving. A few hours later my brother posted a rant on his facebook page bashing my father. I ended up leaving a message saying he was much worse then our father could ever be, quite dangling his children in front of everyone that our father could die anytime and he could care less.. I’ve had it. Sick of them using the kids against everyone (their 10 and 12). If people don’t do what they want then it’s ‘your not going to see my children’ my parents take the kids the whole summer and every holiday for free and take care of them. My mother lives for taking care of them and is now beside herself with crying etc.
My father is waiting for surgery and could die at anytime he’s been told. Is this really how anyone would treat their parents?
I’ve lost all respect for my brother. He used to be a caring awesome guy who would give shirt off his back but as soon as he got married he couldn’t see us alone. He can’t do anything without her. He’s become so materialistic it’s sickening and shoves everything in everyone’s faces and let his wife push all of his friends out of his life simply because she dousnt like them. The girl they have together gets the short end of the stick she usually face times me crying. Her mother has always treated the other child better and calls the eldest ‘her baby’ she’s said a lot that she wishes she could just go live with grandma because ‘I know she loves me I don’t think mom does’ . I’m talking about a child that crys when she has to go home. I’m sorry but that’s just not normal, right?
My brother is so whipped that he does whatever his wife wants but has these occasions where he phones mom upset because his wife hasn’t paid bills and he was finally able to get mail and found out she hasn’t told him something or like said the money he gives her to pay bills he finds out that it hasn’t gone to that. She’s always treated us like crap whenever we’ve gone to visit but simply to keep the peace we generally don’t say anything because he (bro) doesn’t either. I’m thinking this might be the final thing that’s broken relationship forever.
I just beside myself, I keep thinking that brother I loved might come back or it’s not (our other brother died a few days after Christmas 2013).. Maybe one day he’ll wake up and be divorced. Her favorite saying is if he leaves her she’ll get the kids and everything. Meanwhile my niece is stuck in the middle. Just wish he’d grow a pair and be his own person instead of doing whatever she wants. That’s not a relationship.
I’ve read grandparents have no rights? I don’t know age kids get to decide for themselves where they want to be?
Honestly what would you do? I’m not fighting with him anymore I said my peace, no swearing, unfriended. Just had enough. My parents have been through enough last couple of years. Between having a child die, losing his job getting another, being in pain all time, having worry of could die anytime.. I think my father (and mother for that matter) Have been through enough these last couple years, they shouldn’t have to put up with being treated like crap by their own son for no reason.