Young Man Dating Blues
I’m a 24 year old physically fit, athletic male. Not the best looking guy, but certainly not the worst. Make around $100,000/year. Have my own company, and two properties. Drive a $102,000 car. Went to university and college for 4.5 years, have about 5 years of oilfield and construction experience. Have a Class 1 and working on my electrician ticket.
But I have horrid luck dating here; I’m the guy some women like to look at, but few actually want anything to do with. In person either I get a dirty look, a look away, or a smile- it is usually either or. (Most) women around my age I go through because they just can’t show up at a certain day and time, or they just want attention and are horrible to communicate with. Others are too absorbed into digital communication and don’t value face time, and make endless excuses to not spend actual time together. I want to actually see your face and emotion. I do business the same way; let’s meet up and talk. None of the phones, emails, or resumes/wall of text. Others complain I work too much and away from home sometimes. Once I was bluntly told she did not get enough sex (despite us having great times when we were physically together). Then you run into the ones looking for a guy to just get knocked up by and who would do anything (and a lot of men in Alberta would do just anything!)… but then I’m that odd one that only wants a strong, independent, non-needy woman that works. Some attack men like myself as only wanting sex, and rationalize pregnancy as a means to trap a man. Where then this is where I don’t get along with most women who automatically jump to that conclusion if men don’t “waste time” chasing them. I’ve believed love should be something that happens naturally and shouldn’t be forced; if it’s meant to be then it should just comfortably happen on both sides. You shouldn’t need to push me to do ___.
Also I’m quite quiet about my financial and educational background unless you specifically ask. I am one of those “good with money” (or some may call “cheap”) people relundant to spoil a woman or let her move in and have kids within a short time. I’ve had fights about me not paying for some of the women dinners, nevertheless at the time I asked: do I really want someone who is always going to demand from me?
I know I shouldn’t be ranting, as it may be just my experience being a young person, when a lot of women you come across aren’t very punctual or have their life together… nor do they see the value of a man who does so. The older usually don’t want a younger (biologically explainable). Or who knows, maybe it is just my bad personal experience! It just gets to me sometimes and it’s nice to share a rant and converse.